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Married to my best friend. Father to five exuberant children. Fledgling entrepreneur. Writer. Software developer. Inventory management expert.
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Almost every morning, I wake up next to my wife, my best friend of more than twenty years. A few days ago, I took a shower with her then drove her to the airport for a flight to a conference three thousand miles away.

What if I didn’t wake up today? What if her plane hadn’t arrived safely at its destination?

Statistically, my chances of dying in my sleep are greater than hers dying in a plane crash yet either one of those have happened.

When Kobe Bryant and eight others, including his daughter Gianna, died, the world paused…

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It was in early 2000 when I entered the University of Utah as a full-fledged student of Mechanical Engineering. My goal: earn a PhD in automated systems (robotics).

My wife, a genius by most standards, graduated in the Spring of 2003. We were already expecting the birth of our first child. I finished school in 2005, shortly before our second child came along. However, I didn’t have the PhD I dreamed about. Instead, a Bachelor of Science in Mechanical Engineering.

For me, it wasn’t a failure to achieve a goal but a shift in priority and desire. At the time…

The only way we can initially observe new experiences is through the lens of our prior ones. If we don’t take time to question what we observe, we unintentionally choose to let perception become reality.

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One of the strong tenants of my faith is service to others. A few oft-quoted words of a well-known leader say, “when ye are in the service of your fellow beings ye are only in the service of your God.” Within my community, there are many people of the same faith. Some of my friends in the community are members of my faith but do…

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August 2017. With a carload of young and adult men, I pulled into a small parking lot at the base of a 4-day long backpacking trail. We were there to summit the tallest peak in Utah.

As you can imagine, mobile phone reception was spotty, but a voicemail from my wife reached me as we pulled in.

She had been to the doctor.

The diagnosis: Papillary Thyroid Carcinoma.

Her doctor caught it very early; the post-operative recovery rate above 99%. She was one of the lucky ones.

It shocked her into making some pretty dramatic lifestyle changes which I’ve written…

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Who am I?

In our lifetime, we may ask ourselves that question more than once. Sometimes, it’s superficial self-questioning. At others, it sparks deep reflection, and may result in a career change, dramatic weight loss, or going all-in with a new relationship.

From birth, we are assigned labels. In my opinion, many of these are harmless except that each label we receive — if we’re not careful — will pigeon-hole us further into thinking about ourselves only through the lens of how others see us or what others expect from us.

Worldwide, the average height for a man is around…

Consider this composite image.

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What thoughts and feelings are elicited by the two halves of this picture. Here are a couple of obvious primers:

Eye for Ebony

  • The image features just one person.
  • The way her eyes are looking makes me believe she is looking at another person.
  • The smile on her face indicates she is happy about something.
  • She is wearing what looks like a nice watch, a gold-colored chain necklace, and nice earrings which lends itself to a measure of affluence, but she’s not .
  • She is beautiful.
  • The narrative I imagine when looking at this picture is…

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My wife works as a health coach. She became interested in taking control of her health after a cancer diagnosis, surgery, and treatment. She’s an amazingly disciplined person. When she puts her mind to something she is 100% committed to it.

This will sound odd, but it was hard for me to watch her get healthy. She went on a strict (but healthy) diet and she lost a lot of weight fast.

So much of our life — up to that point — revolved around food. It was our primary social outlet: going to dinner with friends. …

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7:02 pm. June 13, 2019. 15-year old Donnel was struck and killed on Helen Street by a 24-year old driver who lost control of his car. He was traveling through a neighborhood at a high rate of speed. The driver attempted to flee the scene and was forcibly detained by residents until the police arrived.

5:21pm. October 24, 2019. 34-year Anna and her unborn baby died when their vehicle was struck by another car travelling at “excessive speed” in “abhorrent conditions”. The vehicle that struck Anna was traveling above 100mph (161km/h) in snowy conditions. …

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2020 began with people alive with anticipation of the new decade and ended with people worldwide exhausted and anxious for change and relief. 2021, at least in the United States, didn’t start out with the calm most people hoped for; political unrest and the Capitol riot were capstones to the chaos that left so many people on edge, wondering what the thing would be.

For many people in “developed” nations, the worldwide pandemic, race riots, and political and civil unrest are the most traumatic things they’ve ever experienced. They hit over and over again with unrelenting force. …

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